The wholeness of life has, from of old,

Been made manifest in its parts.

-Lao Tzu

Healing your body, soothing a painful relationship, recovering from a loss, transforming the quality of just about any unwanted situation can begin with one simple step. This step may create an instantaneous shift or it may require time and repetition. In either case, it is profoundly powerful and it sets in motion a cascade of beneficial influences. The simple step that acts like a healing balm on any situation consists of a calling forth of an awareness of wholeness. It is achieved by tuning in to the experience of the whole within the part.

The need for healing, whether it seems physical, emotional or otherwise, can be understood as animbalance in the relationship between the parts and the whole. Whether you translate this into therelationship between the cells as parts and the whole of the body or the selves as parts and the whole ofhumanity, we can quickly see that all parts are wholes and all wholes are parts.

When the part aspect of the whole dominates, there can be a coming apart. When the wholeness native toeach part resounds with the greater whole, healing occurs. When wholeness permeates the part, easebecomes the tone of that part. Harmony characterizes its relationship with the whole. Health, prosperity,beauty and wisdom spring from this arrangement.

Whole Hearts

It is my desire to do nothing which I cannot do with my whole heart.Ralph Waldo EmersonA good way to start cultivating the wholeness of the parts is by practicing whole-heartedness. Harboringconflicting intentions breaks the heart into com-part-ments. As love flows through the com-part-mentalized heart, it scatters the heart’s light. This disarray creates shadows. We experience theseshadows as negative emotions: a bad mood, anxiety, depression, frustration, anger.

The practice of cultivating whole-heartedness unifies our perception of the heart’s light. It blurs thedivisions and brings the wholeness of the heart into direct experience. Like looking at the sun, thebrilliant glow of the whole heart expresses as one. No parts are apparent as the wholeness comes intoawareness. No shadows are cast within the wholeness of the heart because it is all light. With a littleconscious effort, we can feel the wholeness of the heart. Its integrity is unmistakable. Its completeness ispalpable.

Whole-heartedness sets a tone of oneness that rings so expansively that it brings forward the wholenesswithin other parts. It resounds powerfully throughout the body and soul. It vibrates through the worldand the ethers.

The heart that is whole pumps love through the world. The love that flows from heart to heart inspiresgratitude. The gratitude that springs from the flow of love heals even the most ancient wounds. Whengratitude is whole-hearted, every part benefits. By a simple turning of your attention to your own wholeheartedness,you can bring healing to your world.

Being “Greatful”

To be grateful is to be great. In gratitude, we focus upon that which is great and tune ourselves to thatvibration. In gratitude, we, as parts, tune ourselves to the whole.To be great is to be grateful. Within greatness there can always be found an honoring of the whole. Thishonoring of the whole finds whole-hearted expression as gratitude.

Habits and Lost Parts

The part in question may be a cell, an organ or a system

in your body. It may be a memory, a desire or aspecific aspect of your personality. The part may even be your perception of your role in a personalrelationship, a community or all of humanity. The part in question can go astray and lose its resonancewith the whole. Parts that get lost in this way tend to create unwanted patterns which can become habits.

We often feel at the mercy of these habits as they undermine our well-being and have us doing things welater regret. These unwanted habits represent parts which have lost their resonance with the whole. Theyare parts that see themselves as separate partial entities living in a world of other separate partialentities.

Battling these habits becomes a futile struggle of part against part. This struggle can manifest as amedicine cabinet full of prescription bottles, a never-ending stream of fad diets or a repetitive history of“giving up smoking.” As long as these solutions are based on a reaction of one part to another, they arestill part-dominated. Living in a dominant vibration of the part promotes disharmony which can manifestin any form of misalignment between your intention and your activity.

We tend to think of habits as patterns of behavior. It can be useful, however, to notice that we have more subtle habits of vibration which precede our actions and generate the more visible outer habits that canplague us.

Bringing wholeness into balance with “partness” will shift the way you feel and may inspire completelydifferent actions, both on a cellular level and in your conscious activity. Keeping your feeling awarenesssteeped in whole-heartedness will bring forth in you uncompromising integrity and enormous compassionboth for yourself and others. It will set the tone of wholeness (health) in your body. Bringing the feeling ofwholeness into the heart heals all wounds. It breaks unwanted habits. It makes every moment new.

The Habit of Gratitude

Developing a habit of gratitude ensures a balance of the parts with the whole. Gratitude amplifies thepresence of the whole within the part. Once gratitude becomes habitual it nourishes the system on anongoing basis bestowing all sorts of benefits. It awakens the inner wholeness of the part. It harmonizesthe actions of the part within the whole. All aspects benefit.

To begin developing the habit of gratitude, let your extremes be your triggers. When things are goingmagnificently well, let that be a reminder to give thanks whole-heartedly. When things are going allwrong, let that be a reminder to look for something good. Let the unwanted circumstances be a triggerfor your new habit of whole-heartedness and gratitude. Find something you can appreciate with yourwhole heart.

By replacing your conflicted awareness of the unwanted part with a feeling of wholeness throughgratitude, you are shifting the patterns of karma. You are revealing your inner glow. You are brighteningyour future. You are healing your whole system. You are contributing a beneficial vibration to yourworld.

© Rebbie Straubing

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As the stroke of midnight heralds the end of another year, research suggests that along with the rest of us you will almost certainly resolve to do some things differently in the year ahead.

Chances are you will also decide to change things at other times too.

If your past record suggests you need to do something to tip the odds in favour of your success simply follow this 7 step programme for improved results.

1. Plan ahead and choose something that is really important to you, which really excites you when you think about it and is in your control. Describe and focus on the result you want to create not the work you need to do to get there.

2. Create a vivid picture in your mind, like a movie, of what it is going to be like when you accomplish your goal. Fill in as much of the detail as you can. Notice how you feel, what you look like, what you are doing, hear what you are saying about yourself, perhaps even what other people are saying about you too. Notice all the positive things you have that you don’t have now. Work on this until you have created something that really excites you, step into your movie and live it in your mind at least once a day.

3. Create an action plan for getting there and follow through on it. Build it around taking small steps and not one big one. Plan it so that every day you do something, no matter how small, to engrain new habits and move closer to your goal. Commit your action plan to paper in as much detail as you can. Review this

regularly to check you are taking the action you need to in order to achieve your goal. Update the plan when you notice new and even more exciting ways to get what you want.

4. Create the space or remove the temptation. If you are going to start doing something to achieve your goal be clear about how it will fit into everything else you are doing. If your plan involves stopping doing something remove all temptation and avoid the situations that would trigger of the thing you want to stop.

5. Enrol friends, family, a professional coach, help you develop a successful strategy, keep you focused, cheer you on, and achieve all you want and will enjoy having.

6. Track your progress and reward yourself regularly when you stick to your plan and pass key milestones.

7. Be kind on yourself and lighten up if it doesn’t all go to plan all the time. That could happen and most often in the first 21 days. If it does happen, laugh, run your exciting mental movie, check your action plan and do something as soon as possible that will put you back on track. Remember, you can shape your future in the decisions you make today.

Wishing you an outstandingly successful life.

Alistair Nee specialises in coaching executives, leadership teams and high potentials that want to resolve contemporary business issues and generate sustainable corporate and personal growth.

His client centred approach is solution focused, supportively challenging, incisive, and centred on the client achieving their goals swiftly and easily.

Alistair is an accredited coach, Master Hypnotherapist, certified NLP Master Practitioner and member of the International Coach Federation. For more, go to: http://www.executive-coaching-and-personal-development-coach.com

If you’ve done any reading on the subject of marketing, you’ve certainly heard the term “Unique Selling Proposition” or “USP.”

As a reminder, your USP is what positions you in the marketplace — are you, or what you sell, the best, the cheapest, the fastest, the easiest, the longest lasting, the most reliable, the most prestigious? Your USP is what makes you distinct from your competitors, but it’s often the thing first-time business owners don’t fully understand.

Lara and I just started working together last month, and one of the first things we had to tackle was her USP. As a web site designer, she is part of a well-developed marketplace often competing with several other companies for every job.

“I really don’t know why they keep picking the other guy. It’s so frustrating after I’ve worked so hard to get in the door in the first place. The only way I feel like I can get the job is if I underbid it, but I’ll never be able to keep my business running that way.”

“Well, you’re right,” I replied. “You shouldn’t have to lower your prices just to get every job. There are certainly web designers out there who are charging less than you, but there are probably an equal number of them that are charging more. So, if we assume that there are companies hiring your higher- priced competitors, then maybe price isn’t what every prospect bases their decision on.”

“It sure has been for me. That’s always the reason they say they didn’t choose me. It makes me think that I’m going to have to lower my prices in order to get any work, but like I said, I’m not charging anything out of the ordinary. My hourly rate is at the market average as far as I can tell.”

There were a couple of issues that we explored during the rest of the conversation, including her pricing, her competitors, her target market, her mission, etc. But the one that really hit home was her USP.

Up until this point, Lara didn’t realize that she was the one forcing her prospects to make their decisions based on price. She was marketing using the Competition Model instead of the Distinction Model.

In the Competition Model, your prospects see you as offering the same service as your competitors. In their mind, there is no delineation between what you and your competitors offer and how you offer it. So the only decision-making factor they are left with is price.

If they think all web designers offer the same level of web site design, can complete it in the same time frame and will be equally professional, what’s left? That’s right … price.

Think about how you make buying decisions. If you are getting your clothes dry-cleaned every week and you think that the three local dry cleaners all do a decent job, will have your suits ready in two days, and are equally friendly or disagreeable, aren’t you going to go with the cheapest one?

But some dry cleaners pick up and deliver don’t they? Some offer tailoring and mending services in addition to dry cleaning. Others set up shop inside large grocery stores, so you can knock out two errands in one stop.

These things make them distinct from their competitors. There are people who will pay a little more in order to have their dry cleaning picked up. There are others that

will pay a little more to be able to drop it off and pick it up at the same time they are buying their week’s groceries.

If you don’t want to compete strictly on price, you’ve got to be DISTINCT from your competitors. That way, your prospects have something, besides price, to base their decision on. By emphasizing that distinction in your marketing efforts, you will naturally attract those prospects who value your distinction.

And when you are Irresistibly Attractive, the sales pressure is off. You just go out there, show them who you are and what you can do, and they come to you!

So how do you make you and your business DISTINCT and, therefore, Irresistibly Attractive? By creating your Unique Selling Proposition (USP).

What makes you different than your competitors? Are you faster? Do you deliver better quality? Are you more responsive to their needs? Are you closer in proximity? Do you specialize in a particular industry?

Take a moment to put yourself in the mind of your prospects. If you were hiring someone to perform your kind of service, what would you want?

You can practice by thinking about your own buying decisions. If I was hiring someone to clean my house, I would want them to:

• do an impeccable cleaning job

• show up on the scheduled day/time

• avoid breaking/taking things

• smoke outside of my house, if they smoke

• charge $100 or less

If I could find someone to do these things for $65, I would hire them. But, if I would have to sacrifice the quality of their work or their reliability in order to pay the lower price, I would go with someone else. It’s important to me to have a clean house and to know that I can count on that person to show up on Thursdays before I have guests arrive on Friday.

So, here’s the process:

1. make a list of the things you would look for if you were a prospect hiring someone to do your service

2. put that list in priority order

3. gather all of your sales materials together (e.g. printout of web site, business cards, letterhead, brochures, email signature lines, proposal, trade show displays, newsletter, sales letter, direct mailers, cold calling script, elevator speech, etc.)

4. set aside 1-2 hours to review all of your materials to see what message you are sending to your prospects

5. revise your materials as needed

When you review your materials, try to look at them with fresh eyes as a prospect would. After going through them once and making notes about the impression they set, go through them again specifically looking for the top two distinctions from your list.

Do your sales materials/tools really bring your message home? Are your top 2 distinctions clearly emphasized in your materials? Are there things you need to add, omit, or revise in order to create your distinct impression on your prospects?

Once you are communicating a very specific and consistent message about yourself and your business, you will find that you no longer have to sell. Business comes to you – and it’s the kind of work you like that pays you what you deserve.

About The Author

Kimberly Stevens is the author of the ebook series, *The Profitable Business Owner: A Step-by-Step System for Starting & Running a Successful Service Business*. Download Sample Chapters & get her free MiniCourse, *The 10 Most Common Mistakes Business Owners Make & How To Avoid Them* at: http://www.askthebizcoach.com/ebooks.htm

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How does this law of giving work?

This law states that if you give away money, then you will receive 10 times the amount you gave away.

Why would I want to give money away, how will this increase the amount I have? When we give, we are not only helping another person through their journey through life, but we are also being rewarded. This reward is related directly to what we were giving. Think of it this way, we are being repaid in the same common currency but with 10 percent interest.

When we give money away this creates money streams. The more you give, the more you will receive. You make connections by giving money away. These connections allow more money to flow. The more connection we make, the more money flows. You need to connect up the pipes that will allow money to flow.

Does it matter who we give money to? Of course it matters who we give money to. We don’t want to be giving money away to a bottomless pit. Giving money away to an organisation is one example. They will take care of your money and not squander the money away. This money will then be used to help someone in need. We could also give money to someone who has been helpful to us.

When you give money, expect to receive more. Be grateful and happy and show gratitude when we give money

away. Don’t fell that you have less money after giving. You should plan to give 10 percent of your money away. We call this the 10 percent rule, or the 10/10 rule. Give away 10 percent and expect to receive 10 times the amount you gave away.

What if I don’t have any money to give? This is a common question. Even if you don’t have anything to give, then give anyway. Don’t fell that it is making you poor. But fell that you are making a difference to the life of someone else, and you will also be rewarded, but don’t give and expect to be rewarded straight away.

This law works with not only money, but anything else you give away. What do you have that you would like to receive more of?

The person or the organisation we gave money to, may not be the source of the money that is returned. Don’t expect the money to come back from where we gave the money to. Also don’t expect to win the money back. But expect the unexpected. Money will come back to you from the least unlikely source sometimes. Maybe there is someone who owes you money, that you have forgotten about. But be certain that money will come back to you, it may just take some time for the money to return.

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Quite many readers are asking me “how to get my ex husband back?” and usually it happens after divorce or breakup of their marriage. And chances of getting him back after separation are much lower than before so that’s why you should start working on your marriage problems way before any possible breakup signs are showing up.

For that you first need to identify main reason why you have ended up with problems in your relationship. List of possible reasons can be quite long and individual to characteristics of both partners but in most cases it is monotony of relationship which makes it less emotional and fun. Especially if you don’t have common interests then such monotony will come into play quite quickly after few years and mostly depends on previous history of your husband. If you are his first love then chances are this relationship can last for much longer time even without common interests but in case your husband has liked variety and had several relationships before you then it will be much harder to sustain such relationship by leaving it to flow on itself.

Adding some fun to your marriage can make it more interesting and reduce chances of your husband seeking this fun elsewhere. As example you can learn what interests your partner has and try to get more information about those and discuss what you have learned with him. This will show him how much you care about him and his interests and of course will initiate his willingness in sharing your interests. Relationships are built on common interests which is base of any marriage.

Remember that by coming along with him and sharing his interests you have much greater chance of making him more interested in

your own interests as well. Usually for men it’s quite hard to show their emotions and enjoy romantic encounters unlike it’s show in most movies in real life they don’t behave like that. But after you have given some of your time to share his interests they will more likely to be interested in finding more about your plans and possibly even fantasies you want to fulfill. This way you will be finding more common ground and getting to know each other better.

There are quite a lot of other ways to make your relationship less monotony and find ways how to get your ex husband back without leading this to eventual breakup or even divorce involved and make your lover enjoy this marriage and look into future expecting more fun and joyful time with you instead of someone else.

This can sound quite strange for some but to get more spice or passion into your relationship you actually need to spend some time alone or with other people without your partner and let him do the same while doing some favorite activity on your own. Main problem with living together after marriage is that usually people spend too much time together and get tired of each other which results into conflicts and frustration about this relationship.

So plan some time on your own and you won’t regret it because afterwards you will spend more passionate time with your husband that you love and he will enjoy this time with you as well just like when you were dating in beginning of your relationship.

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