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Overcoming Artists Block (part 2)

Once you are ready to start working again you will know itinstinctively. All artists go through periods of ‘creative block’ – it’s normal, but after one such episode there are ways of stimulating ideas and getting the creative juices flowing again.

Visit your local library and take out books that cover materials,techniques and subjects that are not familiar to you. If you are a watercolour artist, why not try oils for once? If you paint large acrylic abstracts, would it be possible to try soft pastels on a smaller scale? What results could you achieve by doing something completely different to what you’re used to?

What about trying collage or mixed media work? Take photos ofyour neighbourhood, family or friends. Local places of interest, the countryside, the seashore, the city. Manipulate your photos on your PC and print out as digital art. Use the images, either natural or manipulated as collage pieces. It is so therapeutic cutting pieces and sticking them down. Use a range of materials to finish your work.

Instead of going straight back to paintings or drawings on normal scale, why not create some miniature pieces? How about greetings cards? White card ‘blanks’ are very easy to source. How delighted family, friends or customers would be to own an unique hand painted card.

Try drawing for once instead of painting, if that’s your usual medium, or vice versa. Fill a sketchbook with small quick sketches. You could even time yourself. Three or five minutes maximum for each sketch.

When you’re ready to go full size again, try loosening up your technique, by again setting a time limit for each piece of work you create. With a deadline to meet, you will speed up and loosen up. Try not

to be precious with your art. Be quick and bold – see what happens.

Paint upside down. Start a new piece, then half way through turn the paper or canvas round 90 degrees. This is a great technique for abstracts. Use new colours – let them flow into each other. Splatter colours onto the wet surface. If you like, you could turn the work once more to finish. What a great way to create ‘happy accidents’.

Paint or draw to music. Use only your emotion to make marks on the surface of your support. Play your favourite rock, pop or classical music, let the melodies and rhythms wash over you, influencing how your artwork evolves. I often paint to ‘Smile’ by Brian Wilson …. and boy do I get inspired!

What about painting left handed if you’re a right-hander and vice versa. Trying to do a representational work with your weakest side will produce art that is still yours, but will have a completely different edge to it. Challenging and great fun to do … if you have the discipline!

Finally, once you get back into full flow, remind yourself of all the artwork you have created successfully. How appreciated you are by your customers. Read their testimonials. Feel that glow again, when you realise that your creativity block was only temporary and that there are fans out there just waiting for you to release some wonderful new artwork into the arena.

Gail Miller is a professional artist whose artwork is a visual feast of colour and fun. Her fascination with bold colours and fluid, expressive shapes and line are evident in funky abstracts, sinuous nudes, vibrant still life paintings and lively townscapes. Visit her website at http://www.gailmiller.com

Three Factors Of Leadership Motivation

Leaders do nothing more important than get results. But you can’t get results by yourself. You need others to help you do it. And the best way to have other people get results is not by ordering them but motivating them. Yet many leaders fail to motivate people to achieve results because those leaders misconstrue the concept and applications of motivation.

To understand motivation and apply it daily, let’s understand its three critical factors. Know these factors and put them into action to greatly enhance your abilities to lead for results.

1. MOTIVATION IS PHYSICAL ACTION. “Motivation” has common roots with “motor,” “momentum,” “motion,” “mobile,” etc. — all words that denote movement, physical action. An essential feature of motivation is physical action. Motivation isn’t about what people think or feel but what they physically do. When motivating people to get results, challenge them to take those actions that will realize those results.

I counsel leaders who must motivate individuals and teams to get results not to deliver presentations but “leadership talks.” Presentations communicate information.. But when you want to motivate people, you must do more than simply communicate information. You must have them believe in you and take action to follow you. A key outcome of every leadership talk must be physical action, physical action that leads to results.

For instance, I worked with the newly-appointed director of a large marketing department who wanted the department to achieve sizable increases in the results. However, the employees were a demoralized bunch who had been clocking tons of overtime under her predecessor and were feeling angry that their efforts were not being recognized by senior management.

She could have tried to order them to get the increased results. Many leaders do that. But order-leadership founders in today’s highly competitive, rapidly changing markets. Organizations are far more competitive when their employees instead of being ordered to go from point A to point B want to go from point A to point B. So I suggested that she take a first step in getting the employees to increase results by motivating those employees to want to increase results. They would “want to” when they began to believe in her leadership. And the first step in enlisting that belief was for her to give a number of leadership talks to the employees.

One of her first talks that she planned was to the department employees in the company’s auditorium.

She told me, “I want them to know that I appreciate the work they are doing and that I believe that they can get the results I’m asking of them. I want them to feel good about themselves.”

“Believing is not enough,” I said. “Feeling good is not enough. Motivation must take place. Physical action must take place. Don’t give the talk until you know what precise action you are going to have happen.”

She got the idea of having the CEO come into the room after the talk, shake each employee’s hand, and tell each how much he appreciated their hard work — physical action. She didn’t stop there. After the CEO left, she challenged each employee to write down on a piece of paper three specific things that they needed from her to help them get the increases in results and then hand those pieces of paper to her personally — physical action.

Mind you, that leadership talk wasn’t magic dust sprinkled on the employees to instantly motivate them. (To turn the department around so that it began achieving sizable increases in results, she had to give many leadership talks in the weeks and months ahead.) But it was a beginning. Most importantly, it was the right beginning.

2. MOTIVATION IS DRIVEN BY EMOTION. Emotion and motion come from the same Latin root meaning “to move”. When you want to move people to take action, engage their emotions. An act of motivation is an act of emotion. In any

strategic management endeavor, you must make sure that the people have a strong emotional commitment to realizing it.

When I explained this to the chief marketing officer of a worldwide services company, he said, “Now I know why we’re not growing! We senior leaders developed our marketing strategy in a bunker! He showed me his “strategy” document. It was some 40 pages long, single-spaced. The points it made were logical, consistent, and comprehensive. It made perfect sense. That was the trouble. It made perfect, intellectual sense to the senior leaders. But it did not make experiential sense to middle management who had to carry it out. They had about as much in-put into the strategy as the window washers at corporate headquarters. So they sabotaged it in many innovative ways. Only when the middle managers were motivated — were emotionally committed to carrying out the strategy — did that strategy have a real chance to succeed.

3. MOTIVATION IS NOT WHAT WE DO TO OTHERS. IT’S WHAT OTHERS DO TO THEMSELVES. The English language does not accurately depict the psychological truth of motivation. The truth is that we cannot motivate anybody to do anything. The people we want to motivate can only motivate themselves. The motivator and the motivatee are always the same person. We as leaders communicate, they motivate. So our “motivating” others to get results really entails our creating an environment in which they motivate themselves to get those results.

For example: a commercial division leader almost faced a mutiny on his staff when in a planning session, he put next year’s goals, numbers much higher than the previous year’s, on the overhead. The staff all but had to be scrapped off the ceiling after they went ballistic. “We busted our tails to get these numbers last year. Now you want us to get much higher numbers? No way!”

He told me. “We can hit those numbers. I just have to get people motivated!”

I gave him my “motivator-and-motivatee-are-the-same-person!” pitch. I suggested that he create an environment in which they could motivate themselves. So he had them assess what activities got results and what didn’t. They discovered that they spent more than 60 percent of their time on work that had nothing to do with getting results. He then had them develop a plan to eliminate the unnecessary work. Put in charge of their own destiny, they got motivated! They developed a great plan and started to get great results.

Over the long run, your career success does not depend on what schools you went to and what degrees you have. That success depends instead on your ability to motivate individuals and teams to get results. Motivation is like a high voltage cable lying at your feet. Use it the wrong way, and you’ll get a serious shock. But apply motivation the right way by understanding and using the three factors, plug the cable in, as it were, and it will serve you well in many powerful ways throughout your career.

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Are You Working on Your Masterpiece?

Have you ever thought about your career or the work you do as art…as a form of personal creative expression? We can easily summon an image of the painter, sculptor, musician, writer or inventor in their studio, engaged in the wonderful process of creating a masterpiece.

Try applying this analogy to you and the work you do. Your career…past, present and future is a canvas upon which you are painting, a block of stone upon which you are chiselling. The work you do, the life you lead, are the works of art that you create.

Imagine that pursuit of excellence in the artist we summoned to our imagination. Are you working purposefully on YOUR masterpiece…on something that matters to you, something that requires total engagement and all of your faculties, something that brings alive your values and imagination, something that requires your absolute best work, something that will survive beyond today’s work day?

It is very easy to lose sight of the big picture (pun intended) in the day-to-day survival and busyness of our lives. Who has time for this kind of thing? Well, if this idea resonates at all with you, you can easily find justification in the following: working at this kind of level makes you more attractive to the market (who doesn’t like working with committed, engaged individuals) and more interesting at cocktail parties. It could awaken a sense of purpose you

have been missing. It could make you happier. It could be part of your legacy. Heck, find your own reason.

The Oxford Dictionary defines it as “an outstanding piece of artistry or workmanship” and “a person’s best work.” Let me mold the concept for our purposes:

*Your masterpiece is whatever you say it is, as long as it represents your BEST work. You are the judge. Ultimately, only you know if you gave your all.

*Your masterpiece can be a thing that you produce with a start and finish. Or, it can be the steady, elegant service you provide, or work you do, day-in, day-out.

*Achieving international acclaim is a wonderful thing. But the absence of it does not take away from what you have done. If you can gaze at what you have done with pride, knowing that you gave / are giving it your all, then that is masterwork.

*For some people, their life’s work is focused on one thing. For some of us it is less focused. Perhaps, think itty-bitty masterpieces vs. grand masterpiece.

*Some people embody this ideal in how they live their lives…and that’s really cool.

You get the picture.

So, what are you working on?

Ian Christie is a career coach, entrepreneur, former Monster.com Sr. Director & former executive recruiter. Ian is a career expert with many published articles and media interviews. Visit BoldCareer.com for free career resources & personalized career services.

Family Time

When you pick up any magazine, it’s easy to find an abundance of articles to help you organize your life. Most offer tips for cleaning out the closets, shuffling the papers on the desk, finding ways to organize the kid’s toys.

But, here’s a different twist. We’d like to help you organize your time to find some precious, extra moments to spend with your family.

Many parents are frantic because there doesn’t seem to be enough hours in a day to manage their work, home life, and kid’s activities. They’re frustrated when they see others who seem to do it all. The number one question parents ask us is, “How can I find more quality time to spend with my kids?”

Stay focused on what’s really important. Do you waste valuable time? Clear the clutter in your life. Do you buy lots of toys and gifts to compensate for your lack of family time? What your kids really want is you, not the latest, greatest toy. How much time is wasted cleaning up the clutter? If the junk has taken over, pitch it.

How much time do you spend carpooling? Do you really need to sign your kids up for another after school dance lesson? Is your cell phone off? Or, are you wasting your time on endless phone conversations while running your kids from one activity to another?

Do you eat dinner together as a family? Are phone calls and other interruptions allowed during dinner? Is the television off?

Let everyone help. Do members of your family share in the household chores and responsibilities? Even the youngest children can help by making their beds, putting away toys, and setting the table. Insist that each task is done before moving on to another activity.

Set small goals and be specific.Resolutions are made with enthusiasm. But, very often they’re forgotten in a month. Making a resolution for the entire year is difficult to keep. Saying that you want to spend more time with your family is too vague. But, promising to spend 1/2 hour each night reading aloud with your children is much more achievable. Start with small goals. They’re easier to accomplish.

No one can give you more than 24 hours in a day. But, it’s your choice in how you choose to spend that time. Even an extra 10 minutes a day is a worthwhile goal. Once you see

the benefits, you’ll be motivated to set additional goals.

Winter ComfortsNow that you’ve set aside a few extra minutes each week, enjoy some of these winter activities with your family.

Start with dinner as a family. Make a new recipe. Let the kids help in the planning. Be sure to include some of their favorite foods.

Make one night a week Eat Dessert First Night.

Dedicate 30 minutes after dinner to family time. Buy a new board game, set up an ongoing jigsaw puzzle, read a story aloud together.

Bundle up and go on a family walk.

Make snow angels or build a snowman together.

Schedule one Saturday or Sunday a month as family day. Plan an outing. Try hiking, snowboarding, skating, movies, or a museum.

Take a drive in the country and stop for a cup of hot chocolate before the ride home.

Explore nearby towns or historic landmarks. Arm the kids with cameras.

Start a family project to send to relatives next Christmas. Create a family cookbook or photo album.

Set aside an hour to bake a batch of sugar cookies. Pull out all of the sprinkles and decorations.

Dedicate one day as Pajama Day. Let everyone stay in their PJs for the entire day. Build a fire in the fireplace, read books together, watch movies, play board games.

Enjoy your family and your new found time.

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To Be A Cut Above The Rest!

Mannerisms and personality traits go a long way in making impressions on other people. Some people unknowingly have mannerisms, which humor others. Some people have mannerisms, which obviously show that they are tense – wiping their face with a handkerchief or nervously twiddling their thumbs or even a lot of stammering when they talk.

During a conversation with someone, smile for no reason, and people start wondering what is happening to us. Even smiles have to be rationed in order to present us as a sane person.

Notice speakers in public forums tapping the microphone 3 or 4 times, have a bout of cough, clear their throat before starting a speech. These actions obviously create an expectation among people that they would be hearing an interesting speech.When a boy and a girl talks to each other one can observe how the guy has a foolish grin on his face all the time while the girl nods her head and keep raising the eyebrows and flutter her eyelashes.

Some are found to eat upto their last morsel of food in the plate and keep licking till the plate dries off. This happens in places where eating with hand and not using spoon is a practice. They don’t bother about the morsel spilt and dried on their dress. Worst is when some use their fingers to help themselves from the dishes which is open for all. We can also observe how when drinking out of the straw, not willing to spare the last drop and willing to do justice to the money paid for the drink,

one sucks deeply till the gurgling sound is heard. Getting used to these bad etiquettes lead them to get stuck to them as mannerisms.

Some would like to show off their uniqueness especially in a group where when friends order a Pepsi or a cola he or she would go in for a hot coffee.

Physical mannerisms like closing the eyes, scratching the chin or cheek while talking is another show-off to show signs of wisdom which one might not possess but wish to prove. Verbal mannerisms in order to gain attention like when a friend meets another..There is a loud” Hi” repeated 3 or 4 times.” HI HI HI HI” or one loud ” Hiiiiii ” and clasping the other’s hand tightly to indicate he is so close to the other one (No one knows what is running in their mind though!)

Some have the mannerism of nicknaming the other persons and especially in families; one can observe them hollering strange names much to the embarrassment of the nickname holder! It is also fun to watch people sleeping in buses or cars mindless of their heads dropping on to the others shoulders!

The list goes on and on. How then do we create first impressions? The key is to learn to use correct mannerisms in a variety of situations such as in meetings with parents, in the classroom, at weddings and funerals, during mealtimes or in the home. Correct carriage and poise, social elegance, effective body language, are all enhancement techniques to improve mannerism and be a cut above the rest!

HPriya Sivan

Finding Your Zone

You hear about it all the time, that ‘zone’ where athletes excel with apparently little or no effort. Footballers seem to attract the ball like a magnet and place it exactly where they want it with ease. An archer can’t seem to miss his target, whilst the gymnast can’t put a foot wrong.

In business, especially sales, too, ‘the zone’ is a well populated place. From deals that seem to close themselves to thorny scientific problems that are suddenly very clear, evidence of it abounds if you listen to the speach of the achievers.

There are two things to note about this ‘zone’ experience. First, it’s no accident. Whatever the sport, the sportsman or woman who excels in the zone can only do so because of the years of training that have gone into building the skills and physical abilities needed to perform well. Without the background knowledge, no amount of raw talent will sustain ‘zone’ performance for any length of time. The rookie may experience this sense of infalllability briefly, but without time and training, the bubble will burst sooner rather than later.

Secondly, every one of us has a zone. We all have a talent within us that we are meant to hone and practice until it is second nature. For some this talent is obvious, such as singers, entertainers and other artists, sportsmen and journalists, even politicians.

For others of us, our talent may be less obvious to us. We may feel there is no one thing we excel at, or love doing above all others. Or we may just feel that our interests are not worthy of such attention.

Perhaps your first love is food, and you feel guilty for that because it’s led you to be overweight, rather than being channeled into a career in catering, or even as a dietician. Or maybe you loved playing with plasticine as a child but your parents frowned on it, so your inner scultptor has been burried.

Maybe it’s been so long since you even tried the thing you love, that you’ve convinced yourself you wouldn’t enjoy it any more. For me, I loved writing poetry and short stories as a child, an activity my mum considered ‘silly and pointless.’

The thing is, if you don’t know what your passion is, how can you fulfill your creative potential. And if you do know what it is but never give it the time and effort it deserves to develop your skills, you are depriving yourself

of that ‘zone’ experience.

And that’s a crying shame, because most of us could and should live in the zone, or at least very near to it.

So what if you don’t know what your ‘zone’ activity is?Well, here are some questions you can ask yourself to at least point you in the right direction.

If you had unlimited funds in the bank, and didn’t have to work ever again for money, what would you do tomrrow?

Once you’d done all the usual stuff, like a blow out holiday, new home and furnishings, and bought a whole new wardrobe and car. What would you do then?

If money was no object how would you pass your time?Chances are there’s something you would gravitate towards, whether it’s something you already do but on a ‘held back’ basis, such a weekend golf or fishing, or something you have always fancied ‘having a go at’, whether tha’s potholing or scuba diving or whatever.

If you were to take an evening class, what would it be in? Flower arranging? Cake Decoration? Brick Laying? Welding?What subjects did you like at school? Art? Drama? Geography? History? What were your childhood hobbies? Stamp collecting? Bug collecting? Skateboarding?

What gets you ‘on your soap box’? In conversation, what topics get you going? When do you catch yourself debating your opinions? Are you a vegetarian? A conservationist? or just a conversationist? Do you love telling jokes or stories?

The point is there is something in your life that makes you come alive. If it’s not obvious to you, ask your family and friends what subjects you talk about most, and use this as a starting point.

Or visit http://www.payinghobby.com and have a browse around, get some ideas to get your creative juices flowing.

Once you’ve discovered what it is you really want to do, you can start to develop a plan of action.

Gail Seymour is a published Poet and Web Site Designer, who currently runs http://www.payinghobby.com.

Gail doesn’t believe people should work long hours, commute, and generally slave for a wage, and have only a few precious hours each week to spare for their passions and pastimes.

She does believe people should do what they love and love what they do on a day to day basis, and that the distinction between work and pleasure is one we should all move towards obliterating.

To find your passion and start your own journey towards personal fulfilment, visit http://www.payinghobby.com today and sign up for her free newsletter.

I Thought I was Having a Heart Attack

Acid reflux is a condition that can range from uncomfortable to extremely painful, and can emulate ailments and life threatening problems such as fractured bones and heart attack. It’s a relief to find out that you’re not having a heart attack, but any time you experience what is technically called gastroesophageal reflux disease (pronounced: gas-tro-ih-sah-fuh-jee-ul), or GERD for short, it can be a bit unsettling.

And simply put, at it’s peak it can be a scary experience, and as it turns out can also be very expensive misdiagnosis.

Let me tell you a short (and very true) story…

Over a period of a year or so I began having chest pains. They only occured in short bursts and were sometimes experienced as heartburn and other times as painful and sensitive as having a broken rib. I had difficulty sleeping and at times was so sore I felt like I was walking like an old man. I passed these symptoms off for sleeping in the wrong position or lifting something too heavy while I was at work. But suddenly I felt it gaining on me and one day as I was going about my regular routine I felt the same chest pain coming on and treated it as I always had. “It’ll go away.”

But as the day went on it became worse and on my way from work I was torn between going home to my family or driving myself to the hospital. By the time arrived home I was having so much difficulty breathing and my chest hurt so badly that I asked my wife to take me to the hospital. I was admitted to a hospital room because they told me I was having symptoms of a heart attack, and the EKG was showing an abnormal heartbeat. An EKG is short for electrocardiogram, which is simply your heartbeat graphed to a piece of paper over

time. It can show irregularites in your heartbeat when read by a trained professional. Anyway, I was fitted with numerous probes and an electronic box that kept track of my heartbeat, blood pressure, and musical tastes :) for 24 hours.

I ran on a treadmill for about 15-20 minutes that increasingly became more difficult to test my cardiovascular stamina. I was given an injection of a radioactive die, then layed in a large rotating machine (similar to an MRI) which produced a view of the bloodflow throughout my body. Healthy bloodflow. No Cardiac anomalies. They told me it was hard to tell I wasn’t a 20 year old (gasp, when I’m 37).

Diagnosis? Can you guess? Acid Reflux. The Bill? $11,000, and some-odd hundreds. Spare yourself from this experience if at all possible, but don’t ignore symptoms that could be potentially disastrous. If you experience symptoms that you feel may be a heart attack don’t wait until you send yourself to the hospital! Always get a doctor’s opinion first, and do it the first moment you experience any great uncomfort that isn’t normal to you. It’s a lot better to address the issue now than to have to suffer so badly from it later, even if it’s a false alarm.

In it’s mildest state it’s what’s known as heartburn. But there is a small, fairly weak valve at the top of your stomach, and for some of us this valve for some reason (and there are known reasons and cures/preventions) doesn’t quite do it’s job. When this valve consistently allows acid to pass from the stomach and into the esophogus, this is called acid reflux. It slowly deteriorates the lining of the passage to the stomach into the throat, and commonly becomes worse over time. There are very simple, proven ways to avoid this!

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Discover How Hallucination Is A Powerful Method To Gain Control Over Your Stress In Under 5 minutes

Possibly the most misunderstood part of stress management is your role in it.

Those who respond to life with negativity or anxiety as most likely to deal with the physical affects of anger, guilt, nervousness, frustration and fear.

These emotions can cause hypertension and high blood pressure, which can lead to heart attack or stroke. Other complications include ulcers, arthritis, asthma, high cholesterol and kidney disease.

People who tend to focus on themselves as the controller of their fate – in fact ‘self-motivated’ – are more likely to feel a sense of control when stressors affect them. Instead of blaming something or someone else they have the motivation to deal with a problem and look for a reasonable solution.

This may have to do with how you organize the images in your brain. Basically your brain records all your senses all the time. Since your vision is important imagery is a very important part of how your brain thinks.

So the brain thinks in images. Our memories are collections of images. The interesting thing is, we actually have the power to control or change those images. By changing our images we can change/control our states.

Think of a time when you felt some stress. Make this memory as vivid as you can. If you can imagine a time when you were stressed and feel those feelings now. You are ‘hallucinating’ as that situation exists in the past, not now. You have to recreate or ‘hallucinate’ the conditions to feel stressed.

Hallucination is normal. We do it all the time. When you think of that situation with an ex that happened 5 years ago and get angry or recall or memory that makes you all mushy. You are vividly recreating an event that has ceased to exist. In other words you are hallucinating in a controlled manner.

Ask yourself, “How can I use this knowledge about hallucination for stress management?

Think of

a time when you felt challenged but confident that you will succeed. Pick even a small event and hallucinate in vividly. Feel the feelings you felt then, now.

Here’s the fun part. Go back to the time you felt stressed and notice what details your mind is focused on. Particularly what you saw, heard, felt etc. in detail. Do the same for the time you felt good and notice how these hallucinations are different from each other.

Maybe in the stress hallucination you feel pressure around you(with the world closing in) while when feeling confident you don’t. Maybe you say negative thoughts to yourself while in stress and when not, you think of nice things.

Pay careful attention to these next words.

If you take the components of the stressful hallucination (size, feelings sounds etc.) and switch it with the more positive one you will feel better automatically.

This has to do with how your brain organizes your thoughts. Happy thoughts are kept in one area and sad thoughts in another. If you use the happy thoughts way of perceiving things, then that’s how you will feel.

It can take you up to 5 minutes to get the feel for the process. Once you know how to change your stressful hallucinations to positive ones you can do it anytime anywhere.

The ability to choose our thoughts, to think what we want, is what gives us the power to determine our attitude and perspective when approaching a problem. If we allow stress, anger and frustration to consume us, it can be like a runaway train gathering steam and threatening to derail. All you got to do is stop fueling the fire and the train will slow down.

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Memory Timebox

Being the youngest in a family of eight didn’t leave much time…or funding for extravagant birthday parties that included balloons, hats or goody bags. We had the usual birthday cake from a box, candles and the “Happy Birthday Song,” and finances permitting – we received gifts from our parents.

I recall one birthday that my father wasn’t home. An Army Sergeant, he spent many weeks on end in “the fields” or drill for his particular duty station. Upon his return, he brought me a very large cardboard box. It wasn’t wrapped, a little warped, and most of the flaps were open. As a wide-eyed 6-year old, I was of course, intrigued by the contents. Pulling back one of the flaps, I peered down inside the container. The base of the box was lined with tiny, used plastic toy soldiers, a few matchbox cars, some lego blocks and a Batman car that traditionally shot “missiles.” However, since the missiles were missing, we accessorized the little, black vehicle with toothpicks – which worked quite well.

We didn’t have a lot of money for a lot of things, but the big, cardboard container with used toys seems to linger in my timebox of precious memories. As a matter of fact, the miscellaneous odds and ends were the perfect gifts for an inquisitive blond-curled tomboy.

As we all matured, my sisters and I proceeded having our own families. One of our primary goals was to give our children ALL the things we didn’t have or couldn’t afford. And as much material things I personally gave my children, I still wanted to incorporate a “special” memory timebox that they, too, may retain in years to come.

I made certain that both my children had ‘real’ birthday parties – hats, goody bags, the whole works. But what made their special day – ‘special,’ was the flying of the balloons. So what’s so unique about letting balloons go into the air? From the time my children were able to write with crayons, I would purchase small 3×5 ruled, index cards, plastic ziplock baggies, ribbon and helium balloons on their birthdays. Depending on how old they were turning, was how many helium balloons I would buy. I began first by having them write a small note, “Dear Friend, my name is …, and I am hoping that my little balloon will find its way to you. If you find my note, please write me at…., God Bless You, ….” After writing their note, name

and address, we would meticulously slip the 3×5 card into a ziplock baggie, seal it and attach a separate note to each balloon. At the ‘end’ of their birthday party, my kids would excitedly run outside to lift off their balloons. One at a time, we would watch red, blue, green, yellow, purple and orange balloons spiral into the vast, open sky.

Throughout the years, up until their 12th birthdays, we would fly the balloons to signify their special days. Additionally, we knew that although modern technology allows us to instantly communicate, that perhaps, just one of the balloons would make it into someone else’s hands. One year after my son’s 9th birthday, he received a letter from a teenage girl that lived in a neighboring state. The hand-written envelope was addressed to my son, and came from North Carolina. As he carefully opened the sealed envelope, I knew that this was a response from one of his balloons. Sure enough, the letter explained how the little balloon had made its way into a farm field over 400 miles away. The teenage girl wrote how her father, a farmer, had been ploughing his wheat fields when he stumbled upon a red balloon with a little note attached to it. Amazed at his finding, he brought it home to his 17-year old daughter who quickly responded to my son.

For years, my kids would anxiously await more responses. Although we didn’t get a response for every balloon we sent, somehow, I know that another individual will one day stumble upon one of their little notes from the past. And perhaps, one day, they will receive yet another response.

It is my belief that the simple things we do, give and say are the happiest and most treasured moments of our lives. My teenage kids often remark about the balloon flights and still hold those times dear to their hearts. In essence, they now have their own memory timebox, as I will always have mine.

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How To Read A Page A Minute

The Industrial Age is behind us now. Machines can out produce even the most diligent worker. But no form of artificial intelligence can match the brilliance of the human mind. Thus, while machines can replace muscle, nothing can replace the brain. So, we in the Information Age must sharpen our skills to keep up with the rapid pace of knowledge.

Yet while multi-media presentations are becoming more ubiquitous, reading remains the primary way to learn. It remains an essential skill. The faster you can read, the more you learn. And, of course, the more you learn, the more you can earn.

Yet it isn’t enough just to process written information faster, you also have to be able to retain it.

Speed reading appears to be an answer to how you can read faster, understand what you read, and retain more of the information in long term memory.

Here are 7 ways you can start speed reading right now.

One, relax as you read. The more stressed you are, the less you can retain. A relaxed reader is an attentive reader.

Two, read with a purpose. Before reading isolate why you are reading, then select those parts of the text or book that gives you that information. Many books have low content because of the need to fill out a two-page theme to book length. Sometimes, too, even with a high content book, you may only be interested in a few chapters.

Three, weed out the nonessential. In line with identifying your purpose in reading something, use the table of contents to isolate the essential chapters. Yesterday I wasted many hours of the day reading a book on concentration, only to discover that the chapters on techniques were profitable. The rest of the book was filler material. Now, I’m wiser.

Four, skip the structure. Many words

exist in a sentence to hold the sentence together. Focus on key words. When you do a search on a search engine, you use key words to find what you want. Similarly, the human mind processes key words better than whole sentences. Usually more than 60% of any text is merely structure. By focusing on key words, you understand more.

Five, practice speed reading. Reading faster is a skill like any other. The more you practice, the better you get. Reading faster is more than an intellectual skill; it is also a motor skill, because you condition your eyes to move efficiently.

Six, condition your speed over time. Set a goal, and create a simple plan. Once you get to 200 words per minute, then aim for 250 words per minute, and so on. If you “train” consistently, you will actually be able to read a page a minute. A fit and conditioned runner can do a mile in 4 minutes…a page should be easier.

Seven, expand your vocabulary. The more words you know, the better your comprehension. Consequently, the less you pause to figure out what something means. Furthermore, the better your vocabulary, the higher your level of literacy, income, and social influence.

Reading faster does take some effort. However, your results will be worth it. As your knowledge expands, your income will soar and the quality of your life improves.

Alternatively, those who still have an industrial age mentality risk becoming obsolete. While we can’t slow the brisk pace of modern life, we can prevent the tragedy of falling behind.

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Saleem Rana is a psychotherapist in Denver, Colorado. If you would like more information on how to read faster, and understand and remember more of what you read, you can find it at http://theempoweredsoul.com/SelfImprovementBooks/speedreading.html